{"id":818,"date":"2026-06-29T07:26:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-29T06:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/goodwords.info\/?p=818"},"modified":"2026-05-28T09:38:33","modified_gmt":"2026-05-28T08:38:33","slug":"im-so-angry-all-the-time-and-i-dont-know-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goodwords.info\/?p=818","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I&#8217;m so angry all the time and I don&#8217;t know why.&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You have a tiny volcano inside you. Sometimes it gets hot because someone shook your values, but sometimes it pops because you&#8217;re tired or sad and don&#8217;t know how to say it. To keep the volcano from exploding, you have to learn to talk to the &#8220;lava&#8221; and tell it to turn into cool, bubbly water instead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Why This Happens:<\/strong> Anger is often a &#8220;secondary response&#8221; to an underlying feeling you haven&#8217;t identified. Your body\u2019s &#8220;engine&#8221; is designed for survival, and it uses anger as a fast way to protect you from perceived threats. If you rely on &#8220;untrained learnings&#8221; from childhood, you might use anger to hide your true feelings of being scared or lonely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>How to Fix It:<\/strong> When you &#8220;catch&#8221; the angry feeling starting, mentally shout &#8220;STOP!&#8221; and picture a big red stop sign. Immediately replace it with a picture of a time you felt cool, calm, and in control, and tell yourself that you are safe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Context:<\/strong> <strong>Sigmund Freud<\/strong> viewed such symptoms as symbolic ways of dealing with &#8220;intrapsychic conflict&#8221;. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" data-dominant-color=\"d4c6b4\" data-has-transparency=\"false\" style=\"--dominant-color: #d4c6b4;\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"819\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?resize=819%2C1024&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-819 not-transparent\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?resize=819%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 819w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?resize=240%2C300&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?resize=768%2C960&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?resize=600%2C750&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/goodwords.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/05\/Choose-to-be-cool-and-calm-instead-of-reacting.webp?w=1080&amp;ssl=1 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 819px) 100vw, 819px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You have a tiny volcano inside you. 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